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all_are_more_intended [2019/07/14 13:33]
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-====== ​All are more intended ​====== +====== ​Forcing your kids to kiss and hug: a bad idea ======
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 +It is very common for one of the steps to acculturate the smallest of the house (that is, to make them internalize the culture in which they live and deal with the people in their environment) go through a ritual: kissing to friends and relatives of their parents.
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 +Thus, in casual meetings on the street or during the holidays, it often happens that many fathers and mothers force their young children to greet, kiss or hug people who are unfamiliar or intimidating to the latter. However, from a psychological (and even ethical) perspective,​ this is not correct.
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 +**Respecting the vital space of the little ones**
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 +Although we do not realize, all people have a living space around us that accompanies us and that acts as an intermediate point between our body and everything else. That is to say, that these small invisible bubbles that surround us are almost another extension of us, in the sense that they offer us a space of security, something that belongs to us and that has a role in our well-being. This phenomenon is well documented and is studied by a discipline called proxemics.
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 +Childhood may be one of the stages of life in which psychological functions are half done, but the fact is that from a very young age we understand what this vital space means and act accordingly. Not wanting to get closer than it should to people who for the moment do not produce confidence is not a psychological deformation that must be corrected, it is a cultural expression as valid as that which makes adults not embrace strangers.
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 +**So ... why force them to give kisses or hugs?**
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 +That some fathers and mothers force their sons and daughters to greet hugging or kissing is not in itself part of an indispensable teaching to create young people with autonomy: it is part of a ritual to be well, in which comfort and the dignity of the little one is secondary. A ritual that generates discomfort and anxiety.
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 +Nobody learns to socialize by being forced to do those things. In fact, it is possible that this kind of experiences give more reasons to get away from people who are not part of the immediate family circle. To socialize is learned by observing how others act and imitating them when and how they want, being oneself in control of the situation. This is called vicarious learning, and in this case it means that, over time, you end up seeing that everyone else greets strangers and that it does not pose a risk if the parents are present. The action comes later.
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 +**The best thing is to let them freedom**
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 +It is clear that in childhood parents and guardians should reserve the ability to have the last word in what the youngest do, but that does not mean that they have to be forced to perform the most insignificant and unimportant acts. The norms must be well justified so that they go in favor of the well-being of the boy or girl.
 +It is worth taking into account the preferences of young children and, if they do not cause problems, let them make their own decisions freely. Making them enter the world of rigid social norms of adults through force is not a good solution, and doing so implies giving the message that the only valid behavioral options are those dictated by fathers and mothers.
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 +According to an educational platform called [[https://​www.assignmenttigers.co.uk/​|can I pay someone to write my assignment]],​ children are much more than unfinished adults: they are human beings with rights and whose dignity deserves to be taken into account. Not doing it during the first stages of someone'​s life supposes setting a bad precedent.
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